Amber true life i39m dating someone older
But being aware of damaging social attitudes doesn’t mean being innately suspicious of every individual – it just gives you the awareness to recognise red flags.
Luckily online, men who perpetuate these attitudes will usually wave their red flags pretty visibly; they’ll be the ones who set their preferred age range as 15 years below their own and only one or two above – if at all.
This may be because they’re looking to have children and assume that this would be harder with an older woman.
But let’s acknowledge these less than ideal conditions. There are fewer single people generally, and yes, there will be some men your age specifically seeking out younger women.
But don’t automatically write them off just for this.
Everyone has a learning curve, and just like you, most people want to be bowled over by someone amazing. Meanwhile, as for the young men who are interested in you, don’t write them off either.
Again, online dating has the beautiful option of filters, so you can chose only to interact with men who are open to relationships.
To avoid those who are just looking for sex, set boundaries and stick to them.
However, as these forms of social and professional capital have historically been denied to women and undervalued in women, older women don’t enjoy the same sense of desirability.